12.27.2012

Count the Fail...

I found this on my FB news feed.  The title alone made me cringe, but in spite of that, I clicked "PLAY" anyway.

Fifteen seconds later, I stopped watching.  So I can't give you any proper preparation for what the vid contains.



I read a handful of comments and shook my head, thankful that I didn't bother.  I don't understand this "trend" of sistahs apologizing to brothas.  For what, exactly?  I don't denigrate BM or throw them under the bus.  I don't deal with sorry brothas and I won't be bothered with any who are below my standards.  Am I supposed to apologize for that?  Uh, no...and we'll all ice skate in Hell waiting on me to do so.

However, if this woman feels like she needs to apologize for some imagined slight, good for her.  But don't expect me to follow her lead.  *is sick of these thirsty women*

Now for those of you who are able to watch the entire vid, please let me know if I've misinterpreted this sistah's intentions.

23 comments:

  1. I think I'm going to need some hard liquor first. And I don't even drink. If you didn't last 15 seconds, there is no way I'm going to make it to almost 14 minutes while sober.

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    1. I have no liquor and I tried and had to stop. I can't listen to these panderers. She's pandering to black men the way Black Republicans/conservatives pander to the GOP about how lazy and entitled we are.

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  2. Is this woman serious!?! Is she under some Svengali spell or something? Last night, I was listening to video about this Black man(*clearing my throat)...boy who was spewing all sorts of hateful things about Black women, yet Black women are supposed to bow down to guys like him? She's got to be kidding me..right? I'm about to fall on the ground in pure unadulterated laughter because of her amazing stupidity.I'll never own up to my daughter to making a fool of herself like that..OMG!! I think I'll never stop laughing at this chick.

    You described her correctly as desperate.No Black woman with love wouldn't do what she's doing. I like Black men, not scraps. The problem with this woman is that she expect for Black women to settle for scraps. Wish she would decipher the difference between" independence" and being treated like a human because she doesn't get what they mean.

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    1. Well, it's pretty popular to tell black women who have stated that they aren't going to settle for being disrespected, cheated on, mistreated, and who aren't going to waste their time on unemployed, uneducated lazy man-boys that they are just angry and bitter.
      Apparently when people pee on us and tell us it's raining, we are supposed to sit back and enjoy the shower.

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  3. Just so you know I can't and won't be clicking play on that vid. So my comment comes from there.

    I've dated the rainbow. I have found that Black men - American Black men - have their own special set of issues that have nothing to do with us, but have everything to do with living in the good ole US of A. If you as a Black woman want to take that on along with your own set issues on that front - go ahead. I've been there and done that. I have since opted out. So as to concentrate on my own ish.

    Now. I know the social and historical dynamics for some Black men jumping on the bash the Black woman band wagon. Fine. But that doesn't mean I have to join the party and condone it or apologize for whatever or anything like that.

    I try to live my life within an emotional safety and healthy zone. Toxic peeps, friends, BFs, even family members can take a huge step back, because I'm not taking that crap anymore. It sounds like to me that person on the vid has fallen down that slippery slope and had lost her way. I'll never know for sure because I refuse to expose my brainwaves to whatever she has to say.

    She has forgotten to love and appreciate herself first. She has fallen for this man crap that is so beyond OVER I can't even. It is time for the narrative to be about women, for women and with women and in no way to be in context with men.

    I'm talking emotional safety, strength and renewing of our downtrodden spirits. We can't even begin to heal, to come into our power if we spend our precious energies apologizing to those who need their own space to get their own ish together. You can support your Black men if that is your wish, but apologizing and kowtowing and letting them continue to run roughshod over you is simply not the way to do it. There is a huge difference between supporting and enabling.

    I'm walking away now, I've rambled on long enough. But I just had to put some counter-energy out there because hmmmm... yeah.

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    1. ^^^^^THIS! THIS!^^^^^^

      *standing applause*

      Every word of this is absolute beautiful gospel.

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    2. Exactly! We need space of our own.

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  4. I got through maybe a third of the vid and had to stop.

    *is sick of these thirsty women*

    Pretty much. This is heffa who needed a date. That's the impression I get. I see her as being no different from those narcissistic Blasians who take off their shirts or get really dolled up and start babbling on Youtube about how they like [insert group here]. It's for attention, it's to get people talking, and it's to get a date.

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  5. O_O *shake my head*

    Quote:
    "She has forgotten to love and appreciate herself first. She has fallen for this man crap that is so beyond OVER I can't even. It is time for the narrative to be about women, for women and with women and in no way to be in context with men."

    I agree with Jojo. She (the girl of the video) was basically pitying those poor, victimized black men who are innocent and portraying black women as arrogant bitches and treators. I hate it when women do speeches like that to put all the blame on their own gender (and their ethnicity) by putting men on a pedestal.

    American black women don't have to do all the work and take all the responsibility for American black men. No apology needed.

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  6. So I was right not to watch this, then, Whew! Back when I was still reading the saner BWE blogs, one spoke about a woman just like this one. She (the vlogger) took Black women to task for 'abandoning' Black men, and presented herself as 'Not One Of THOSE Black Woman'. If she was expecting the Black men who bash Black women like it's going out of style to rally around and praise her, she was gravely mistaken. They attacked her mercilessly, and even followed her on to her own blog to continue the tear-downs. She later made another video talking about the attacks while in tears....Lawd, that just emboldened them.

    Look, Real Men don't feel the need to bash women as the source of all their problems. Real Men own their shit. Stop confusing Baby Boy Ninjas with Real Men, and stop looking to both the BBNs and Real Men to validate you as a woman. I can't tell the last time I encountered a Real Man who needed a woman's constant praise and approval. I wish more of us women would take a page out of their book.

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  7. Damn, Leo Princess!!!

    If she was expecting the Black men who bash Black women like it's going out of style to rally around and praise her, she was gravely mistaken. They attacked her mercilessly, and even followed her on to her own blog to continue the tear-downs. She later made another video talking about the attacks while in tears

    Wonder if she regrets it now. Wonder if she's changed her mind about the whole thing. It clearly didn't get her what she wanted, and I ain't gonna lie...I'd love to read what they said to/about her.

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    1. @Amaya, I was wondering the same thing. I'd like to see what they said too. It's kind of like that old story about the little girl who was trudging along in the cold and picked up the rattlesnake who promised not to bite her if she carried him in her pocket. (Same story exists with a horse carrying a scorpion across the river).
      It's interesting that they would troll so hard on a super fan though. I'm guessing she wasn't fly enough (or more likely white/Asian/other enough) for them if they felt the need to bash and internet stalk a woman who was defending their trifling behavior. And to go in even more once they knew they had her on the ropes. I wonder what she thought about her black kings when they whipped her to tears?
      But it basically comes down to women who are saying "I want a date, and I'll do whatever you want me to do to be your date, b/c I'm not one of those angry and bitter black women." A lot of those women also like to point out the ways they are superior to the women who've said no to the crap (they like to list their height, weight, education, as proof that they aren't some ugly and bitter black women).
      Look ladies, a man who hates black women and blames them for his problems is not going to like you, treat you well, or respect you, when you decide to agree with him that black wome suck. If you are unlucky enough to get a date or wind up in a relationship with someone like that, you will be abused and disrespected. B/c his issue is with himself. Not you. And no amount of kowtowing to your pathetic "black king" is going to stop him for lashing out at you. A person who hates himself cannot love anyone else.

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    2. As curious as I am to find out who exactly that woman was (that is, if she's still on the web in a public capacity), I'm really not eager to delve into the BWE blog world* again just to locate her. >_< But if what the blog post on her hinted at is any way true...what those Baby Boy Ninjas said was NOT pretty. She was trying to gain the affections of a set of men who loathe Black women - that was her first mistake. I hope she learned from the experience and is stronger for it now.

      *I did gather a few gems from one or two, yes, but the fetish-level White Man Worship I encountered on most was a huge turn off.

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    3. @Leo Princess, I have no desire to wade into that cesspool either, but like I said, I'd be curious to know what the aftermath was...it's like the scenes in a horror movie where you cover your eyes but maybe peek a little. Or maybe I just want someone to tell me what happened. I don't think I could ever really visit a message board or wherever these people exist online. I see enough ugliness about black women in just about every other blog except for the ones that Ankhesen has created...

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  8. Smmfh. These chicks are thirsty like they've been in the Sahara Desert. Real men don't need to bash women to make themselves feel better. I've noticed that boys who bash ANY kind of women tend to have issues that they need to work out. I refuse to be a footstool for any trifling ass boy.

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  9. My bff watched this video. Her interpretation of this bullshit is that the woman in question had a boyfriend that she treated like shit and he left her as a result. Surprise surprise. So she was apologizing to him, but instead of saying "I," that idiot used "We" instead.

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  10. Rules of Conduct and Decorum Public And Private

    "I don't deal with sorry brothas and I won't be bothered with any who are below my standards. Am I supposed to apologize for that?"

    What is a sorry brother?
    Why would a brother be "sorry"?

    Everyone is above someone and below someone else.

    I agree with not being bothered by those below me and those who are pathos I'm quickly learning the futility of interaction.

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  11. I got around to reading all the previous comments and watching the video.
    It sad and unfortunate the comments here - Dialogue may well be futile and misguided on my part.

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  12. I don't understand this "trend" of sistahs apologizing to brothas.

    Wait...this is a trend? As in happening more than a few times?

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  13. Personally, I have come across instances both written and verbal suggesting such. I usually avoid them because I don't want to catch the sickness those women clearly have. These are the same chicks who think Steve Harvey is right to tell women how to act and that we owe brothas our loyalty. These are also some of the same women who are convinced that we are responsible for maintaining the fragile ego of some BM.

    Needless to say, those chicks got defriended quick, fast and in a hurry. But when this bout of foolishness popped up on my wall, I decided to address it.

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  14. My loyalty goes to the man or men who are loyal to me FIRST.

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