12.20.2013

Open Thread: Oh...Wow...No. Hell, no.

I noticed recently that my mother's pastor is almost always at my apartment (the Moms will be staying with me until the end of this month).  They eat dinner, he surfs the web, and I figured they're starting a "thing."  Okay, fine.  Good for them.

But lately, he's been talking a lot to me, trying to get me to come to church with them, and when my mother leaves for work and such...he stays behind.

Before some of you panic, understand there is a third party involved; we have a house guest visiting from Cameroon and he'll often chat with her.  But this is mainly because I'm in my room, door closed, trying to pretend I'm home alone.  When ever I step out, the attention returns to me.  For example, today, after the Moms left and the pastor stayed behind again.  I checked to make this had actually happened again and right away - in mid-convo - he ceased chatting with our house guest and turned to me.  He said he had something for me and handed me this:


*rubs temples*

Y'all...this has just not been my year.

The thing which bugs me is that I get the vibe that while Moms is into her pastor, he's showing an odd growing fixation on me, and this is not a position I want to be in.

15 comments:

  1. ........that's disgusting. Disturbing and disgusting.

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    1. No. Always trust your instincts in situations like this.

      What is interesting is that he's trying this on a woman who's over 30. Usually tis creep-on-your-woman's-daughter business is limited to girls under 20, or at most 30. *sighs* Nice to know this ish continues even later than that...

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  3. Okay....(expression of discomfort and disgust)

    He may be a man of the cloth, but judging by his actions, its stained. He comes off as a perv. I can relate to this. I was done this way as a teen by so called family friend and I eventually told my folks about it.A man of a cloth would never give their parishioners children...especially female.. provocative books like that.

    For the time being, if I were you,I'll be weary of the "good" Rev.

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    1. provocative books like that.

      Lane Bryant coupon. He then notified me as to the nearest location.

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    2. Lane Bryant LINGERIE coupon...b/c they have pamphlets that feature their clothes. So he picked out this lingerie one vs. the clothing ones, which are more plentiful...

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  4. He's still in my house. Even as we speak.

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  5. Would you be comfortable taking your mom aside and letting her know what's up? Dude may have his "Man of God" defense to hide behind, but I still think it's worth a shot. In any case, definitely let him know he's NOT welcome in your apartment. No one deserves to be made uneasy in their own home.

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    1. The Moms laughed it off. She says he doles coupons like that and other to his congregation all the time, and no one uses 'em.

      I remain cynical. I refused to believe that dude got a Cacique coupon in his mail, automatically thought of me, made sure to bring it all the way to my house (not pass it off the Moms or even mention it while she was still present), and all's still easy-breezy in paradise.

      Now I'm being painted as the sensitive American who looks into things too deeply.

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    2. Nuh-uh. Nope. Sorry. I'd be side-eyeing a regular man if he handed me one of those + the rest of his behaviour. A so-called Man of the Cloth? Keep that cynic level high.

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  6. Trust your gut. This man has NO reason to be in your house when your mother is not there. And frankly, given the fact that he's raising red flags with you, he really shouldn't be in your home at all. It's obvious that he's biding his time until he can get you alone. I don't know what the dynamic is between you and your mother, and how comfortable you are with asserting yourself to her, but I think that you are perfectly entitled to tell her that he makes you uncomfortable, and that you'd rather she meet with him elsewhere. If you're weary of the conversation turning into a row on the cusp of the holidays, then at least tell her that you'd rather she be present while this man is in your home.

    I don't think that you are under any obligation to be skeeved out in your own house. Please be careful, and try to set some firm ground rules.

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    1. We will never be alone; we have a house guest who's here more than we are so I usually duck out and let those two chat. And in less than two weeks this place will be empty except for moi.

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