1.09.2014

The Unity Derail

So on our Facebook right now there's another one of those posts by a white feminist who's not really saying anything new.  Instead, it's the same tired old spiel about how we (WOC and white women) will never be united so long as we create hashtags like #solidarityisforwhitewomen, or say lines like, "Check your privilege," and basically continue to point out whenever white women are talking about something they know nothing about.

It seems to be in the water lately; first, an old white female college acquaintance of mine was on her Facebook talking about how if someone tells her "Check your privilege," it's the quickest way to get her to stop talking to that person.  Needless to say, her white friends came out in full support, sharing their experiences, and so on, and so forth.

Then there was Miss Ani and her plantation getaway faux pas, followed hotly on the heels by LaQueetaGate.  And now, there's yet another tearful white woman whining about mean black girls (because let's face it, when they talk about "women of color", they mean us.  They always seem to forget about our Asian, Latina, and Native American sisters, and then are "shocked" by the inevitable backlash).

I've been meaning to write about this for a while and I was wondering what to call this post, what direction to take, and I came to a strange little realization: I don't actually see a whole lot of brown women clamoring for unity with white women.  I run six blogs, follow countless others, receive hundreds of links, and chat with brown women all day, every day, and none of them seem even remotely interested in uniting with white women.  It never comes up.  I have noticed repeatedly, however, that brown women are exceedingly interested in uniting with other brown women.  And it's not just women.

So I'm not surprised white people keep trying to co-opt these movements.  White people, who make up 12% - 15% of our species on a good day, keep telling us that the only way to end racism is to unite with them.  White women, who represent even less of our species, keeping telling brown women that sexism won't end without their help.

Please.

People of color are going to liberate ourselves from white imperialismWomen of color are going to liberate ourselves from sexism.  Make no mistake about this.  This newfound white urge to merge doesn't have a goddamn thing to do with us; as usual, it's all about their self-preservation.  It's about their survival.  They stand to gain everything from (their definition of) unity with us, while we gain nothing.

So yes, white women.  Check your privilege.  Check your tears, check your whining, and check your history.  You don't like this modern world of yours?  Tough shit - you helped create it.  White men brought about excessive destruction to this planet and its people, and you helped them.  You helped them for the same reason same poor white hicks help rich white sociopaths.  You helped the them for the same reason white members of the LGBTQ community often cozy up to white cissexual heteros who think equality is a dirty word.

You help because you want "in".  You got handed the silver card, and now you want the platinum; all the privilege with none of the drawbacks.  You don't want to go on just being Mellie or Cyrus or Sally; you want to be Fitz.  And the Unity Derail allows you to do so because it keeps WOC and white women conveniently bickering in circles, while distracting WOC from focusing on ourselves and making some real progress on our own.  You like your privilege.  Conversely to what a good 99% of you say, you don't want to give it up.

So don't come singing hollow songs of unity to me just because we share a similar anatomical blueprint.  We've shared that same blueprint for quite some time now, and it didn't mean diddly before.

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11 comments:

  1. You don't want to go on just being Mellie or Cyrus or Sally; you want to be Fitz.
    *Handeled!

    So don't come singing hollow songs of unity to me just because we share a similar anatomical blueprint. We've shared that same blueprint for quite some time now, and it didn't mean diddly before.

    #KO!

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  2. BOOM BOOM POW!!!!!!!!!

    ...and none of them seem even remotely interested in uniting with white women. It never comes up. I have noticed repeatedly, however, that brown women are exceedingly interested in uniting with other brown women.

    You know what...you're absofuckinlutely right! Speaking just for myself, I have dick amount of interest in finding solidarity with WW in general.

    They can stay mad, stay hurt, and stay whining. I just don't give two cool, smooth fucks, but their panties get in a tight bunch when it shows that we DGAF.

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  3. I went to your page and read the article. I agree with everything you said. And, I'm a sucker so I read the comments...and I have to give some kudos to Amanda Larson. Nope, I don't know the chick, but it's gives me a little hope.

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    1. Amanda Larson knows what's up. And did you see how others were chewing her out?

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  4. I see white feminism as a way of trying to put up there with their white men and having access to all privileges and power, not for the liberation and uplift of women in general.

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    1. And it's exactly that - white feminism, a term which they resent by the way.

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  5. "an old white female college acquaintance of mine was on her Facebook talking about how if someone tells her "Check your privilege," it's the quickest way to get her to stop talking to that person."

    Then nothing of value was lost.

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  6. Much praise to this article.

    One would think that being a minority (women in this case) would make people more sensitive to other minorities. After the 1920s,60s and 2014 they would have thought about this but they haven't. I admit, I was once a fool for believing it until little things would make me otherwise: how much they aren't there in our times of need. They want something for nothing. They want our help but were overlooked when they get what they want.

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    1. And we need to move away from terms like "minority." We need to evolve out of that mindset and recognize our own power.

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    2. I *wish* we could get an accurate census, because this whole minority/majority bullshit is a holdover from the 70s/80s. When I hear "whites are the majority," I'm like, that can't be right. That is a structure in and of itself, so I'm with you on this.

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  7. " I don't actually see a whole lot of brown women clamoring for unity with white women. "I run six blogs, follow countless others, receive hundreds of links, and chat with brown women all day, every day, and none of them seem even remotely interested in uniting with white women."

    That's because both WOC and white women know white women have no real power, the only power they have is what white men give them. So its pretty pointless for WOC to align with white women because as soon as the white man tells her to choose between her gender or race ( something she never had to do, which is the real problem) she going to chose her race and WOC will be thrown under the bus. So all white women really have are white men, which white women are below and a few brainwashed men of color, which white women would be about equal to but lack all the power. So the question is equality or privilege, what's it gonna be Becky?

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